A mum has expressed her intent on changing her son’s birthday to a different date, claiming it’s ‘inconvenient’ and they can’t celebrate it properly.
The woman took to Mumsnet to ask whether it was reasonable to change the day her four-year-old celebrated his birthday.
He was born on Boxing Day, which conflicts with the family’s traditional celebrations, making it hard for her to make his day as special as she would like.
“It really was rubbish that we couldn’t do anything special on the day due to nothing being open,” the anonymous woman wrote.
“This year just gone the weather was rubbish so we couldn’t even go out for a nice walk or play in the garden.”
She added, “He has no other children to play with, so on his last birthday he really misbehaved due to being bored/having cabin fever/having had far too many presents and focus just on Christmas Day let alone more on his birthday. I felt sad for him as we couldn’t make it special.”
She asked fellow Mumsnet users whether it was reasonable to change her son’s birthday to December 28th.
“We’re always at my parents as we go there Christmas Day and it’s not an option to not stay there Christmas Day night.
“Because my parents get to see him on his birthday it’s only fair that we invite in-laws too, who although I get along with them, they are a pain.
“I have a good relationship with my own parents but they’re a bit fussy/controlling on Christmas and his birthday (understandably so I guess as it’s at their house!) so it’s always been us/them awkwardly hosting ILs.”
Fellow mothers proceeded to give their two cents, with one writing: “Just celebrate on a different day?? Don’t get the issue to be fair. This is all in your remit”.
“Yes you would be unreasonable! His birthday is the 26th it’s sh** but it’s what it is, pretending it’s on a different day will be confusing when he is older not to mention it’s simply lying to him so you don’t feel so guilty,” a fellow mother wrote.
Another added, “I can’t believe you are actually suggesting pretending to him that his birthday is on say, 28th December. Just do what pretty much everyone else has suggested and have a quiet day on his actual birthday if need be and then celebrate more fully on any other day of your choosing.”
So, what do you think she should do?